To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror...
( Part 1)
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror...
This is an open letter to you.
You are still you, I know that can be hard to believe or see right now with all that has changed but I promise there are more amazing changes to come. Some new, some old.
You may not be the same as you were before but you are not lost.
This time can be scary. You can feel as though you are a mere empty shell, unrecognizable in comparison to who you once were.
You look in the mirror and think, "Who is she?"
With your hair in a bun for the 100th day in a row in desperate need of a wash and brushing.
No makeup, eye bags for days, in your pajamas or leggings ( is there a difference?)
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror..
You may not recognize yourself now but you will.
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror...
This is an open letter to you.
You are still you, I know that can be hard to believe or see right now with all that has changed but I promise there are more amazing changes to come. Some new, some old.
You may not be the same as you were before but you are not lost.
This time can be scary. You can feel as though you are a mere empty shell, unrecognizable in comparison to who you once were.
You look in the mirror and think, "Who is she?"
With your hair in a bun for the 100th day in a row in desperate need of a wash and brushing.
No makeup, eye bags for days, in your pajamas or leggings ( is there a difference?)
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror..
You may not recognize yourself now but you will.
Don't forget:
You carried and created life.
You welcomed them into this world.
And now you spend your days caring for them.
What an amazing gift.
What a huge weight on your shoulders.
What a joy to see them grow and move and learn.
Most days it's hard to find a moment to think.
Your minds constantly on your baby, their needs now and later,
The list goes on and on.
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror you are not lost.
I know I keep saying this but it's true.
You are not ugly.
You are not damaged goods.
You are a great mother even in the moments where you lose it.
Because you are here and you are trying.
Remember that.
I know there are so many books out there, as well as peoples opinions.
But when it comes down to it there is no real set, or written rules and guidelines to help you know how to do every little step right,
This is a huge transitional period for you and your baby.
Not just physically but emotionally and mentally.
It's ok to ask for help.
To search through mommy groups, blogs, books, peers, etc for answers.
But remember they were once you, feeling just as alone or lost as you may sometimes be feeling.
They are still learning and searching for answers.
Every baby is different and it's ok to find your own way.
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror...
I know you have been through so much.
The days may seem long but the years are short.
Each day that your baby grows and learns you too are growing and learning.
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror...
When you pick up your baby,
and their face lights up.
They crack a smile or a giggle.
They reach out to you.
They recognize you.
And some day you will too..
-Jennifer Winslow
You carried and created life.
You welcomed them into this world.
And now you spend your days caring for them.
What an amazing gift.
What a huge weight on your shoulders.
What a joy to see them grow and move and learn.
Most days it's hard to find a moment to think.
Your minds constantly on your baby, their needs now and later,
The list goes on and on.
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror you are not lost.
I know I keep saying this but it's true.
You are not ugly.
You are not damaged goods.
You are a great mother even in the moments where you lose it.
Because you are here and you are trying.
Remember that.
I know there are so many books out there, as well as peoples opinions.
But when it comes down to it there is no real set, or written rules and guidelines to help you know how to do every little step right,
This is a huge transitional period for you and your baby.
Not just physically but emotionally and mentally.
It's ok to ask for help.
To search through mommy groups, blogs, books, peers, etc for answers.
But remember they were once you, feeling just as alone or lost as you may sometimes be feeling.
They are still learning and searching for answers.
Every baby is different and it's ok to find your own way.
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror...
I know you have been through so much.
The days may seem long but the years are short.
Each day that your baby grows and learns you too are growing and learning.
To the mother who doesn't recognize herself in the mirror...
When you pick up your baby,
and their face lights up.
They crack a smile or a giggle.
They reach out to you.
They recognize you.
And some day you will too..
-Jennifer Winslow
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